Signs and support

Learn to recognise the signs of domestic abuse and access the support available for those affected.

What to look for

Remember, anyone can experience abuse – people of any gender, at any age, from any background, with any level of need.

You can help get people to safety by spotting the signs and offering support. You might see:

  • Fear – being worried about a partner of family members reaction
  • Injuries – hidden, without explanation or seeking medical help late
  • Poor memory – not able or wanting to recall the sequence of events
  • Feeling at fault – being insistent that what is happening is their fault
  • Accompanied – never seen without their partner or family member
  • Low mood – depression, anxiety, impaired thinking or self harm
  • Isolation – no access to other people. Think work, friends, family
  • Freedom – are they able to make their own decisions and act on them

You may see some or none of these signs. There may be no outward sign that someone is experiencing abuse. Routine enquiry, asking everyone, helps all victims of abuse to speak up.

You may also see signs that someone is using abusive behaviour: jealousy, control, disrespect, anger or blame. Find out what to do here.

Support

Domestic Abuse Drop-ins – One Stop Shops

In person or virtual drop-ins offer free and confidential advice, information and support.

There are a range of agencies available like domestic abuse specialists, family law or housing.

Referral & triage

In Kent and Medway anyone can contact Victim Support. They will undertake a risk assessment and make referrals to the most appropriate local service.

You can signpost anyone you are concerned about to this service.

Ongoing support

Support from an independent domestic violence advisor (IDVA) for those at medium or high risk. An IDVA will assess the risk, make proactive safety plans and provide practical and emotional support.

Refuge – safe temporary housing

Refuge is a temporary housing for adults and children who are not safe to stay in your own home. Once accepted to a refuge they would be expected to move in quickly, within one or two days.

 

SAFER – security improvements

SAFER can attend a clients home to make a security assessment and install additional security measures.

Longer term support

In Kent & Medway there are lots of different groups designed to help people affected by domestic abuse to process their experiences, learn about the tactics of control and heal.

To find out more about the types of support visit Support for Adults, for service details visit the service map.