Supporting children and young people experiencing domestic abuse is crucial for their safety and well-being.
- 1 in 5 children will have lived with domestic abuse by the time they turn 18.
- By the time they start primary school at least one child in every classroom will have lived with domestic abuse since they were born.
Children and young people affected by domestic abuse
Children and young people are victims of domestic abuse in their own right, experiencing rather than witnessing abuse between their caregivers, and can be abused in their own early romantic relationships.
Emotional and Psychological Impact:
Read more about Emotional and Psychological Impact:- Anxiety and depression
- Low self-esteem
- Behavioural issues (aggression, withdrawal, acting out)
Physical Health:
Read more about Physical Health:- Bodily complaints (headaches, stomach aches)
- Sleep disturbances (difficulty sleeping, nightmares, bed-wetting)
Academic Performance
Read more about Academic Performance- Concentration problems
- High achiever
Social Relationships
Read more about Social Relationships- Difficulty forming friendships
- Risky behaviours (substance abuse, other coping mechanisms)
Changes in Behaviour
Read more about Changes in Behaviour- Aggression or withdrawal
- Attention-seeking behaviours
Academic Issues
Read more about Academic Issues- Decline in performance or hyper compliance (excessive sticking to the rules)
- Frequent absences
Physical Signs
Read more about Physical Signs- Unexplained injuries
- Signs of neglect (poor hygiene, inappropriate clothing)
Emotional Indicators
Read more about Emotional Indicators- Anxiety and fear
- Depression
By being vigilant and proactive, schools and youth provisions can play a crucial role in supporting children and young people affected by domestic abuse.
I didn’t want to go to school.
I was always so worried what they’d do, what I’d go home and find.
Charlie
How to support children and young people
This is how your school or youth setting can support children and young people affected by domestic abuse and help them to feel safe and supported:
- Awareness and Training:
Ensure that all staff are trained to recognise signs of domestic abuse and understand how to respond appropriately. - Safeguarding Policies:
Implement and regularly update safeguarding policies that specifically address domestic abuse. - Designated Safeguarding Leads (DSLs):
Have trained DSLs who can act as the main point of contact for domestic abuse concerns, equipped to provide or coordinate appropriate support and referrals. Become a domestic abuse champion. - Support Services:
Be aware of local domestic abuse support services the referral pathway. and making a MARAC referral for high risk cases. Have information readily available for young people and families about where to seek help.
- Safe Environment:
Create a safe and supportive environment where young people feel comfortable disclosing abuse, including spaces where they can talk to trusted adults. - Support local campaigns:
Take action by raising awareness in your setting with the Know, See, Speak Out Campaign and Don’t Disrespect Campaign. - Further information:
For schools and services about domestic abuse is available on KELSI. Visit our Take action to End Domestic Abuse page.
Schools can also engage in:
- Education and Prevention:
Incorporate education about healthy relationships and domestic abuse into the curriculum to help them recognise abusive behaviours – Healthy Relationships professionals resource
- Operation Encompass:
Ensure the Key Adult responsible for Operation Encompass, which involves sharing information
from police to schools, are able to provide timely support to children who have witnessed or
experienced domestic abuse.
Having support has really helped me through my exams.
I had a space to talk about my experience of domestic abuse. I think it has helped my whole family being able to speak about it and also spend some time together having fun. Talking about my feelings helped me understand why I feel the way I do, and seeing what’s most important to me.
Casey
Services
You can access support for children to process these experiences.
- Safe Accommodation Support Service (SASS)
Children and young people currently residing in safe accommodation (refuge, dispersed specialist accommodation or a property with sanctuary scheme adaptions) can access support from the Domestic Abuse Safe Accommodation Support Service. - Children and young people mental health support
- Community support
There are also support options that can be accessed through these organisations for children and young people not in safe accommodation:
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Safeguarding Children:
Spot abuse – Take responsibility – Tell someone
You may be concerned about a child or young person. You may or may not know them, or even their name. Safeguarding is everyone’s responsibility. Don’t assume that someone else will take responsibility and make that phone call. If you are worried, report it now.