If you or your family are in immediate danger don't be afraid to call the police on 999. Otherwise please contact Kent Police on the non-emergency telephone number 101 or visit your local police station to speak with an officer in confidence.

Alternatively, you can contact the freephone 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge on 0808 2000 247 or the Mens' Advice Line on 0808 801 0327.

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Staying Safe

Are you worried about whether domestic violence is happening in your family? Have a think about the statements below and answer honestly.

Your FamilyYesNo
Make you feel safe and supported at home.
Do not hurt you or each other.
Treat you and each other with respect.
Are willing to compromise.
Is cared for and made to feel important.
Does not physically hurt you or anyone else.
Does not emotionally hurt you or anyone else in your family (by calling you names, threatening you, making you feel bad)
Tries to resolve arguments and conflict by talking honestly

If you have answered 'no' to any of these questions, you could be in an abusive family and may want to speak to someone... GET HELP

You can also reflect on whether you think domestic abuse might be happening in your own relationship.

In a healthy relationship both partners treat each other with respect. Answer the following questions honestly to work out if your partner treats you with the respect you deserve.

Your PartnerYesNo
Is willing to compromise
Let’s you feel comfortable being yourself
Is able to admit to being wrong
Is not jealous or possessive
Does not try to control what you wear, where you go or what you do
Does not physically hurt you
Does not emotionally hurt you (by calling you names, threatening you, making you feel bad)
Tries to resolve arguments and conflict by talking honestly
Enables you to feel safe being with them
Respects your feelings, your opinions and your friends
Accepts you saying no to things you don't want to do (like sex)
Accepts you changing your mind
Respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship

When someone loves you, you feel safe, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn't be made to feel scared, intimidated or controlled.

If you have answered 'no' to any of these questions, you could be in an abusive relationship and may want to speak to someone... GET HELP

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